In North Carolina, there are ways to complete a do it yourself divorce. My best friend, Jennie, had gone that route when she and her husband divorced. It went well. In fact, for her, it went perfectly.
So when I decided a few years later that enough was most definitely enough, I figured I could go the same route. I would have to. I didn’t have the money for a hefty retainer. I didn’t have any idea who to hire. And I figured I was the one person I could trust in the world.
I downloaded the forms. I filled everything out. I paid my filing fees. A year and a day later, the divorce was granted. Seemed simple enough.
Fast forward to three years later. We’re divorced. That part went well. Oh, but none of the agreements made as part of the divorce are enforceable. Yup. The custody, the visitation, the child support…apparently none of this is enforceable. And how did I find this out? When it needed to be enforced.
That meant more court time. More money. More filings. More waiting. And nothing happened. I jumped through all their little hoops, taking their mandatory $50 parenting class. And then they canceled my court date. I’m still waiting fifteen months later.
This wouldn’t have happened if I had an attorney.
My recommendation would be that even if you don’t think you have the money, find a way to get an attorney. No matter what the cost, no matter where you live, be it a lawyer New York or a lawyer New Orleans, spare no expense. There are things that are far more costly…years of fighting, for example. Years of not having any enforceable agreements, and years of struggling can take a toll.
I learned my lesson. S already knows there is no way outof this marriage, but death. He seems good with that. And if I can just get my day in court, my life will run more smoothly.
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