Suddenly Single Journey

More pressing issues…

Author: thenicknick

I was going to tell you all about Saturday, since it was  such a great day, but there are more pressing issues right now.  Rachel is suddenly single.

Justin broke up with her.

And while she didn’t see it coming, we did.  He did that distant thing.  And he was horrible at staying in contact, falling off the grid, and he mostly had her on this constant roller coaster the last few weeks.

The result was that it made it very difficult for me to give unbiased opinions and be nice when I saw him Friday night.  (She’s mah baby!)  And it had HIM getting into over-protective-almost-step-father mode.

HIM: Do you want me to beat him up?  I’ll do it!

We wouldn’t allow him to go through with it, of course, but that he cared enough to offer was really sweet.  It just shows how far he’s come. And it also demonstrates what I always knew, that he’s super protective of those he loves.

Well, this morning, in my half-sleep, I heard Rachel walk out of her room calling for me.  Even before she called me on the phone seconds later, I knew.

Rachel: Mom, I’m sorry for waking you up, but I just thought you should know…Justin broke up with me.

me: I’ll be out soon.

I told HIM what was going on.  He had a few choice words about the situation, mumbled angrily in his half-sleep.  And I threw on a bathrobe, collected Bishop, and wandered out to the kitchen.

We had tea and talked.  Okay.  I had tea.  She talked.

We came to a few conclusions:

• It was good that they broke up over the summer so she would have a chance to recover before actually seeing him again.
• It was good that she wasn’t going to be tied down right now and she could do more of what she wanted, rather than constantly making herself available on the off chance Justin would actually follow through with their plans.
• She now had a chance to make the rest of the summer completely rock.

I’m so proud of my beautiful, caring, intelligent girl.

We played with Ninja and Bishop.  (Bishop LOVES his kitten.)  And we changed her Facebook status, which I predicted would result in a wall of date requests.  (And I’m not so far off.  It’s 8:30am on a Sunday and her phone is vibrating CONSTANTLY.)  Oh, and she sent out a mass text, sharing the news.

The general consensus is that Justin is a douche.  Teens say the darndest things.

(Yes, I did ask her permission about writing this.  I would never share such intimate details if I wasn’t allowed to.)

This is how great Rachel is.  Instead of the usual binge, we’re going to be selective.  Donuts.  And I’ll make a big breakfast.  And we’ll probably pick a chick flick.  And who knows what else.

She already had a sleepover planned.  She’s already laughing and smiling.  I know it will be a rough day, but he’s given her a lot of time to get used to being without him.  She’s resilient…another quality that I like to think I may have imparted.

Have a nice day.  I need to spend some quality time with my Rachel.  You understand.

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