Suddenly *Not So* Single Journey

AWWW! Thanks, Veuve! Sorry about your pain…

Rain, you rock! To quote Bartles, or was it James? Thank you for the support.

Pippi, I will most definitely let you know. Gonna have a talk with him right after I deal with the insurance company. Need to make sure it’s cost effective. (Of course, anything is cheaper than a baby…)

Love you, Mak!

And I had a friend who found the Nuva Ring in her bed…after sex. Yeah. Don’t want to go there…

Have to say…thought you of all people would tell me to go get it on. Then again…you are a budding sex therapist.

The pill drives me batty. Okay, not the regular pill, which isn’t all time sensitive. Oh no, I’m talking the mini-pill — that horrific creation that must be taken at the same time every. single. day. Should you be busy herding children, flossing your teeth, or staring blankly at a glowing screen for even five minutes past your pill time, you will suffer. Oh yes, you will suffer. It will come in the form of that wretched Aunt Flo, who seems to take pleasure in ruining most of your fun (and any white underwear you mistakenly believe are safe from her wrath). Alas, the IUD option scares me a bit (and, well, your story of excruciating pain and hurt terrifies me even more). Believe it or not, Mr. Man is actually considering the snip-snip option because he dislikes those latex Chinese finger traps, and he doesn’t like that I have to be so diligent about taking a pill. I think really he just dislikes how militant I get when I’ve missed a pill by 5, 10, or even 20 minutes. Yup, no spontaneity for 48-72 hours after that. You see, I started 2009 on the mini-pill and was noticing how my weaning daughter and repeated late pills made for a 3+ week visit with Aunt Flo. I wanted the wench gone — gone, I tell you! And I knew why she was here. It was those pill screw-ups. So I flung caution (and my pill pack) into the wind, bid Auntie Flo farewell after putting up with her for 26 days, and forgot about a little thing called “back up methods.” So V-Day 09 came, the kids were in bed, a bottle of wine was uncorked, and by the next morning Junior was probably dividing into x number of cells and finding his way to my uterine wall.

Well, if you’re going to be active, you might as well protect your fortress, right? If the IUD is your favorite modus operandi, I guess I’ll jump on the stick the IUD in and go get some band wagon. (This sentence required that I specify the object of the second clause, lest we have some questions raised about what “it” meant. Lol )

My situation is very similar to yours. After 3 kids with my ex husband, he got snipped. Then we got divorced. I couldn’t take the pill or use an IUD and with no insurance a tubal was not an option so condoms were the only means of protection. I did ask DBD his thoughts on getting a vasectomy since he was also done having kids and we were in a LTR but he refused. Well, condoms aren’t foolproof and now I have LO to prove it.

With my next relationship I was very careful w/comdoms and didn’t have any sex at all around ovulation time. That got to be a real PITA for an *active* couple so the bf got a vasectomy. It’s a super simple procedure for men and not all that expensive. So maybe you should see how much HE likes YOU!

Good luck!

I didn’t know that some people have such trouble with the IUD. I got it aabout 9 mos after my second baby, and it was an in-and-out procedure (hahah) that was relatively painless (mild discomfort for 30 seconds) and after a week, the strings softened and never gave me a problem. I got the hormone-free Paraguard and I never even know it’s there!
Maybe give it another shot. My doc gave me a quick novacaine shot before insertion… did yours?

Go with what you are most comfortable with and double up, yes I said it! Birth controls and condoms. Speaking from someone who can not take any oral contraceptives and hormone birth controls… I am as safe as possible.But for me its because a pregnancy can pose a serious health risk at this very moment. A few close friends of mine are on the IUD, depo shot, the patch (not as many now… a few years ago, yes) and pills(although less of my friends are now on the pill). Best of luck with what ever you determine to be best for your situation. you can never be too safe.

What about the depo shot? Every 3 months. I actually lost weight when I was on it. I think they also just came out with something that you place under your skin in your arm and it lasts for 5 years. I forgot what it is called.
What ever you do, get some!!! PS, get some for me too please.

Get some, girl! That IUD thing sounds like a pain (literally). If you are scrupulous about taking the pill you should have no worries. If you are sure you want no more kids, there is a surgical alternative to a tubal for you – they basically remove the lining of the uterus so no fertilized egg could implant. Plus – no monthly decorators in. A good friend of mine had it and said it’s great. But I cringe like the guys reading this post when I think of it.

Forget the Telltale Heart… now we have the Telltale Condom! I can imagine how hard your heart was beating when your daughter “found” something. Haha.

Congrats on the good times with NG.

I have the Mirena IUD and I’m about at that 5 year mark. Time to get it replaced. I love it. I’m not looking forward to having this one removed and replaced but my doc used a novacaine shot to the cervix too. Guess we’ll see how that goes here in the next few months.

Go for it girlie!

And I…have no advice. Or maybe I do. Seeing as how I haven’t had to use said protection in, oh, an unmentioned amount of time, condoms are my recommendation of choice, with the caveat of no messing with nature during the approx 4 days of ovulation.

There’s an excellent book that teaches you how to figure out exactly when you’re fertile just by noticing changes in things in your body. I HIGHLY recommend this. FB message me if you want more info. Don’t want to divulge here and risk giving TMI.

Happy getting some! (Ditto Danielle’s last statement, too.)

Ahh, Amira. At my age, I worry how accurately I could track things. My body has never been one to follow a schedule…unless on the pill. You are so brave!

Great post! I hope this time, the IUD is a cinch. I’ve been using the Nuva Ring for almost three years, with or without the boy to make it worth the money, and I’ve never had trouble with it. Easy to use, hard to forget, and very effective. If you find the IUD just isn’t comfortable, ask your doc about the ring.

And yes, yay you, getting some!

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