Suddenly *Not So* Single Journey

Setting my course in 2010…

Author: thenicknick

Several years ago, I started using part of New Year’s Eve as a time to set my course for the following year.  I’d create this list of goals I’d like to accomplish for the year related to the various aspects of my life.  And then, during the course of the year, I’d tick the items off one by one.  It gave me an immense amount of satisfaction to feel like I’d accomplished something.

Last year, I didn’t do that and maybe that’s why I was all over the board in 2009.  Maybe the fact that I hadn’t entirely figured out what I wanted, where I wanted to go, I was at times wandering aimlessly if not altogether off course.  So, I have high hopes for 2010 since I know what I want.  I know where I want to go.  And I’m determined to do what I must to get there.

Just to keep on course, and because I hope maybe to help inspire some of you equally wayward souls…here’s my list for 2010:

Self-Improvement

• lose at least 20 pounds Ahhh, the eternal optimist that I am, I always think a number is the way to go.  In fact, I just want to be at a weight that I’m comfortable with.  I like the idea of never worrying about whether or not jeans I take out of the dryer will zip without me performing some freakish twisting, sucking, laying, stretching, yanking ritual.  Oh, and I’d like those jeans to be a size smaller. There.
• read at least two books per month I know this doesn’t seem like much, but I seem to have so many demands on my time lately that reading at all has become virtually impossible.  I used to be able to consume a book a day, but that was before I became the social butterfly that you read today.

Writing/Blog Goals

• complete first ebook I’ve been working on it since before Thanksgiving and have missed one self-imposed deadline after another.  Life just keeps cropping up.  I want this book done and ready for distribution THIS MONTH.  Yeah.  Now I just have to do it.  Humph.
• double my blog readership I’m growing.  I’m thrilled.  Yet, I want more readers.  And I guess I’m not sure what I have to do next to make this happen.  So, give me some tips, some ideas, some suggestions.  I’ll take them.  I’m not too proud to admit that I’m a social media moron.  (Admitting is the first step to solving the problem…)
• complete my third novel This is the novel I am most proud of.  I was writing it and sharing it with family.  They love it.  And with a mom seal of approval it should be published, right?  Well, I had to stop writing it because it’s hard to write about love when you’re just not feeling it.  Now I’m in a better place so there are no more excuses…other than the whole I have no idea how to manufacture time bit.  If that doesn’t work out, maybe I should just volunteer for cloning…
• find a new agent I’m not sure this one is really working out for me.  (I mean, I suppose it could mean that I just suck…nah!)  So, I need to find someone new, fresh face on the job kind of thing.  I started a list of potential agents, but haven’t followed through.  Too much going on taking precedent.  I feel settled right now.  I’m ready to press on.

Fun time

• LEAF I miss LEAF.  (Lake Eden Arts Festival)  There are two a year, one Mother’s Day Weekend and one Columbus Day Weekend.  The ex took those in the divorce.  I want the spring one back.  I want to take the kids.  Fingers crossed.
• Atlanta I need to go back to the aquarium.  We were supposed to go in the fall, but we ended up getting Bishop.  I want to see whale sharks and sea turtles and visit the World of Coke.  (Don’t drink the Beverly!)  I want to ride the MARTA.  Oh, Hotlanta!  I miss you!
• Vegas, baby! I’ve been talking about Vegas for a while.  Never been.  It’s not about gambling, either.  I want to see Phantom there.  And I want to see one of the Cirque shows.  I want to tour the strip in a helicopter, ride in a gondola.  And it just so happens…there’s a Margaritaville there!  We know that visiting all of them is one of my biggest goals ever.

And the biggest goal of all…

I don’t want to be suddenly single forever.  I have a great capacity for love.  And I’ve always said that I want to be happy and find someone to share it with.  And I’ve said that I want someone to grow old with.  And I’ve said that I’m on hiatus from this dating nonsense, which does make it a bit more difficult to actually not remain single, but I know that things will work out the way they are intended…even if it doesn’t always seem that way.  I’m ready.  Certainly there are risks involved.  Aren’t there always when it comes to the heart?  I just need to look at it as an opportunity to model some important lessons for the kids.  The risk is worth the reward.

Happy New Year!  May you find some goals you want to achieve and may you have the determination, drive and energy to do so.

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